I need a word that means, “unintentional gaslighting.”
I understand that men like to “fix” the inner turmoil of women but that doesn’t mean that the female thought-process, the conclusions derived from it, or beliefs, values, and feelings are “incorrect” or subject to “critical thinking” or “debate”.
There is such a thing as “female-intuition” without rational basis that has throughout history and myth served as the inspiration or muse for great masculine works. But is the thought-process itself “wrong”? I don’t think it is. Incomprehensible perhaps to a rational thinker but not “wrong”.
Rather, I have come to believe that too much language/talking/words from a woman looks like a problem that needs to be fixed. However, there must be a medium between pacifying/validating/soothing behavior and “you’re wrong!” or “STFU!”
I believe that older men have a better grasp of this than younger men; however, since the human experience seems to cycle, perhaps there are young men who are getting the hang of this tightrope and even young women who have learned to think “right”.
So, what is the non-inflammatory word that an intuitive thinker can use to assuage fears of a rational thinker? Or is the only defense to shut one’s mouth?